Making the Most of Relationships

You know the phrase “Relationships Take Work” but what does that mean specifically for you and your partner? Every relationship has its unique challenges.  Maybe addiction or infidelity are a challenge for you.  Maybe its direct and in the moment communication or managing finances.  Maybe external factors get in the middle, like careers and in-laws and children.   Whatever it is, …

How To Set Boundaries

Specific techniques on how to set boundaries: Take a minute again to answer these questions to start the process of how to set boundaries: Do you always say yes for fear of rejection or abandonment?Do you feel obligated to take on tasks?Do you share your personal life with coworkers or strangers?Do you remain at events or in conversations longer than …

Setting Boundaries

Setting Boundaries We know what boundaries are, how to define them, and the purpose they serve.  So now what? Setting boundaries, taking action, can be a challenge.  We are asking ourselves to do something we maybe have not done before, are not aware we should be doing, or haven’t done in a very long time. Before we can actively make …

Purpose of Boundaries

What’s the purpose of boundaries?  Maintain balance Boundaries, emotional or physical, can help maintain balance and stability.  When you know your limits, and you share this with others, it promotes give and take.  One side is not doing all the taking or all the giving.  Boundaries support even exchange. Decrease stress By knowing your limits and boundaries, you are alleviating …

Defining Boundaries

Boundaries.  How often do you hear the phrase “healthy boundaries?” What exactly does this mean? Who determines the boundary? Does the word boundary sound too harsh or safe or scary? In this week’s support, I thought talking about boundaries would be helpful.  They’re always showing up in my practice – who has them, who doesn’t, and what expectations are attached to …

Five Tips to Connect to Your Teen

Five Tips to Connect to Your Teen by Miriah Tomich, MFT The teenage years are not only difficult for teens, but they are also difficult for parents. You used to have a little “mini-me” following you around who not only loved spending time with you, but was direct in their needs, wants, and concerns. You used to hear things such …

What do therapist’s credentials mean?

What do therapists credentials mean? When searching online for a therapist, you may be asking yourself “what do therapist’s credentials mean?” For some, it looks like alphabet soup with no indication of the actual meaning. Here is some information on my credentials: LMFT – Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. To obtain this license in PA, a candidate is required to …

National Prescription Drug Take Back Day

National Prescription Drug Take Back Day is Saturday, October 27th, 2018. This is a national opportunity for communities to clean out their medicine cabinets and SAFELY dispose of old and/ or unused medication. To find a location that supports National Prescription Drug Take Back Day near you, click on this link. Many police departments and hospitals have prescription drug take …

Addiction and feelings

Addiction and feelings Addiction and feelings can be a difficult mix, usually resulting in the unspoken rule of Don’t Feel. Two approaches are usually at play with the unspoken rule of Don’t Feel.  We are either shut off from all emotions or reacting primarily with anger.  Addiction can make it seem like its not safe to express our feelings, and …

Learning to Trust

Learning to Trust Learning to trust again can be difficult in relationships where addiction is present. Addiction takes out trust the second it enters a relationship, and usually it starts with not trusting ourselves. Trust develops in relationships when two people are trustworthy – they show up and follow through.  Addiction leaves many people doubting and questioning themselves and others. …